2 Things Men Do That Seem Impossible to understand.

#1: “The 180”

You meet a guy who is obviously taken by you and can’t keep his mind or his hands off you. He’s constantly calling you, pursuing you, bringing you gifts, taking you out, and treating you like a princess.
You want to take things slow because you’re not 100% convinced he’s the right guy for you, so you “hold back” a little bit until you can get to know him better and know how you feel about him.
The more time you spend with him, however, the more you like what you see. You are really connecting and having fun together.
Then one day you have something you want to talk to him about.
Maybe it’s something that happened or that he did that hurt your feelings. Or maybe it’s that you want to find out how he feels about your relationship and where he sees it going.When you go to talk to him about it, he acts differently than he ever has with you.
Now HE’S the one putting on the brakes. Now he’s the one saying he “needs time” to sort things through.
Suddenly everything about him changes.
All the loving, thoughtful affectionate and reassuring things he liked doing for you stop.

No more call “just to hear your voice.”
No more “I’m thinking about you” messages.
No more “I can’t wait to see you.”

Suddenly he’s changed 180 degrees in the way he is with you.

It’s almost as if he was interested as long as you were a “challenge.” But as soon as you started to have feelings for him, he got bored. At least, that’s what it seems like.
If you try to talk to him about it, he just gets more distant or annoyed.

So you’re stuck not knowing what happened, or what to do.


#2: The “I’m Not Ready” Excuse

You’ve been dating a man for a few weeks or months and you are getting along great and things feel easy. You’ve planned a nice weekend getaway together and you’re looking forward to it.
Suddenly, he tells you that he wants to postpone the trip because something came up. The excuse seems “fishy” somehow, and you can’t help but think back to a past relationship where the guy started making excuses about why he couldn’t spend time with you, and eventually ended up leaving your relationship.
You again wonder if he’s just “too nice” to tell you how he really feels. So you try to head him off at the pass by asking him if he wants to be in the relationship. To keep your cool you act “tough” and tell him you’re ok either way, you just want to know sooner rather than later what’s really going on and if he’s really there for you and your relationship.
He assures you it’s not what he’s thinking and that he wants to be with you. But you can’t seem to relax.
Things feel awkward He tells you for a couple of weeks afterward and then finally, it happens…he’s not “ready” for a serious relationship right now.

Aha!
You think,
“I was right all along.”
Despite what he told you AT FIRST…he really didn’t want to be in a relationship with you.
You were right about what he was thinking and feeling.Or were you?